Showing posts with label life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label life. Show all posts

Thursday, March 14, 2013

No showers for VARSHA

VARSHA craves to fly
Married at 16; need wings to fly at 30


Its India - not the one where tall towers are touching the sky but the one where there is no electricity, water or food, not the one where woman are equal to  man earning big bucks and riding BMWs but the one where the birth of a girl child is still a boon, not the India where girls like me have a freedom to study subjects of my interest, earn and spend as much as I wish to but the one where females are doing the dirtiest of jobs just to get food, not the one where you fall in love, live the feeling for years and then marry when you wish to but the one where you are forced to leave your childhood games and play with your own individual self - a game where you are the puppet in the hands of so called destiny!


Mumbai- the commercial capital of India where mostly people come with dreams and then struggle everyday to achieve it. This city is full of migrants that usually relocate themselves from small villages and towns to earn their livelihood and support their families. All these migrants have their own stories - very unique and touching.


Varsha was born and brought up in a lower middle class family in a village of Maharashtra. Her parents struggled with all sort of jobs to feed their kids and give them education - if available. Yes, its not just about education for all, its about availability for all, as well. Most of the rural areas are still deprived of the so-called must have 'Literacy for all.' Campaigns and yojanas that we keep hearing all the time in all possible political agendas and plans are just heard not yet implemented. As soon as Varsha turned 16, her parents got her married to a man she never met or even saw. For her there were no choices, she was the eldest and had to leave so that her other sisters get married at the so-called right age. 


Marriage for Varsha was just a term and little did she know what this term had in store for her. She had to leave her small village and move to Mumbai as her husband had his job there. Unaware and unprepared she flew where the wind was blowing her. From village to city, from a big family to just one companion and from the freedom of living her childhood her way, she was now a married girl with a responsibility to cook, clean, feed and all that accompanied. The so-called destiny had molded her little self and she was learning, learning to be a woman from just a 16-year old girl.


Seven years of marriage, Varsha is now a mother of  five kids. Her husband works hard to earn a living but its getting tougher day-by-day. Forgetting the childhood and herself, Varsha now lives for her kids. She now manages full-house and five kids and that too with excellence but money is a problem. The tensions and scarcity of money has turned her husband into an alcohol-lover which brings on extra pressure on her. Her kids are never properly fed or given necessary medication which results to diseases like polio, typhoid, jaundice hovering on her house every now and then. She is trapped and wants to break-free from this net of sorrow. Day-by-day this feeling is getting stronger and she is becoming more and more immune to her own pain, all that she desires is happiness for her kids which is in proper meals, medication and education for them. Those little eyes are letting her see her own reflection - and she doesn't want them to go through all that life had in store for her. 


Varsha starts her struggle with getting out of the house and doing things that would get some food for her kids. She is a fighter and that's what life had made her. No job was considered bad by her and she did it all. This stage of life was her learning school and she excelled!


Varsha is now an oil-massager for new-born kids and mommies earning more than what her husband gets. Her husband too is placed as a driver in one of her clients house all because of her. She struggles the entire day, leaving her kids at home doing errands to get as much money as she can for the future of her kids. Her household conditions have stabilised and she is doing her best to give education to all her kids. Varsha is living the struggle that life had gifted her but she needs wings- wings to fly high just to gain that inner peace, just to live for herself!


P.S. Based on a true story seen, heard & felt from the main character herself!


Friday, April 27, 2012

Does “Happiness” mean we Just Chill?

Doesn't a day on the beach feels a lot better than burning your ass out in the office?  Does that give you real happiness? 

Now when can a person just CHILL all the time? Most likely when you've built up an empire, achieved all sort of material/immaterial happiness and now all that you do is just chill out with nothing on your mind? I wanna know which person is living such kinda life and is that person really happy? 

What makes a person happy? 
Achieving full-fledged happiness and being happy all the time is difficult. Yes it is atleast in this era :(
I feel happy when I am away from the human race? Beaches, sea-side is the place to be according to me. But, what I feel is beaches are more enjoyable when you have accomplished many things before arriving. But, is that possible? 


Happiness is much more than mere recreation or relaxation. 
Material possessions are important to keep one happy. Yes these possessions are awesomely important, largely because they were designed by other people with good ideas and sensibilities according to me. 
But sometimes I wonder, Is it just me who like material stuff? No, of course its not the case. People who talk trash about materialism often love it the most. Don't they?
Wealth is not inherently evil, and hating all rich people is doing yourself a disservice. Love rich people and be rich :)
I have been thinking a lot on the happiness science, trying to understand and achieve it as well!
I’m also just a really happy person, but with little shocks attached to it just like those menopause breaks. The breaks due to life's so called dramatic and real changes. 
Concluding my state from my thinking process, I would call myself a HAPPY human being :)
How did I get so fucking happy? I can barely even say the word happy without “fucking” in front of it.  HAHAHA!
Yes my happiness is just spending some time with myself, with my material possessions, living with my principles and a new wish everyday :) Yes, a day on the beach feels a lot better when I have left behind an image of me in peoples heart, respect, love and most important an impression! It will feel a lot better — ideally, when I’ve built up an empire and my people are happily chilling taking all the pleasures from  my life’s work in my absence while I relax.
Meaning is more important than walking around with a greasy-idiot smile on your face all fucking day. People who pursue happiness directly probably won’t succeed. There’s nothing wrong with money, possessions, and desiring the respect of those whom you respect.
And people who care only about their own happiness don’t deserve any. :)